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- Don’t be angry at yourself when anxiety/depression flares up. It isn’t your fault and no one blames you and if they do they’re pieces of shit.
- Don’t orbit around your perceived value so much. You’re not the sum total of what you produce.
- Don’t let yourself wonder why people love you. That’s not how it works. There are not stark, individual reasons that a person can enumerate about why they love you. It’s the entire, unique combination of what and who you are.
this is what is going on in scotland right now.
dont ignore this.
there is NO coverage of the rioting on the news which is why its so important that you dont ignore this.
please stay safe if you live in scotland.
my partner actually went to the yes rally in george square a couple days ago and said the no guys were indeed doing nazi salutes
The unionists have set fire to the building housing The Herald.
A 15 year old boy is dead.
The riots continue.
My friends have been trying to get out of Glasgow and have been attacked.
Your voter status doesn’t matter to these people, they will attack for no reason.
Gay SNP councillor Austin Sheridan has been subjected to an unprovoked attack simply because he is a gay man who voted yes.
Homes have been broken into.
There are riots on the streets even outside of Glasgow.
The BNP, UKIP, Britain First and The Orange Lodge are attacking peaceful protestors with flares.
LGBT people are being singled out by the above groups.
DON’T LET THIS ABHORRENT SITUATION CONTINUE.
DO NOT LET THIS BE HIDDEN.
PLEASE, DO WHAT YOU CAN.
MY CITY AND COUNTRY IS UTTER CHAOS.
I am just trying to stay safe, for now.
Damn you, Shadow
A - Available?
B - Birthday?
C - Crushing on?
D - Drink you last had?
E - Easiest person to talk to?
F - Favorite song?
Currently, Take It Off by Ke$ha. Of all time, Blue Lips by Regina Spektor
G - Grade I hated?
8th grade because bullying :D
H - Hometown?
I - Ice cream flavor?
J - Jellybean flavor?
Strawberry or watermelon
K - Killed someone?
Planning on it
L- Longest friendship?
M - Milkshake flavor?
N - Number of siblings?
O - One wish?
I wish there was no more hatred
P - Person who called me last?
My mom, after she forgot to pick up from school
Q - Question your always asked?
‘Why do you get so nervous in front of people?’
R - Reason to smile?
Friends, blankets, ice cream, bunnies
S - Song I last sung?
Through the Fire and Flames by Dragonforce
T - Time you woke up?
U - Umbrella color?
V - Very best friend?
Mi moirail, Ekat
W - Which celebrity I’d marry?
X - X-rays I had?
Y - Your last time you cried?
Two weeks ago?
Z - Zodiac sign?
Since I haven’t seen any posts about it on Tumblr, I figured I’d make the post myself! #heardwhilstdisabled is a trending hashtag on twitter, has been on-and-off for awhile obviously, and it’s about the common, casual microagressions the disabled of all stripes have to deal with. It’s UK- and AU-based primarily from the looks of it but I would think it applies to most disabled people - I certainly know I’ve heard my share of this kind of ableism. Here’s more tweets (source is The Indepedant):
@DamonLord #heardwhilstdisabled “that’s so sad. That baby will grow up with a blind father. We should call Social Services on them” About me and my son
@Quinonostante #HeardWhilstDisabled: “mental illness could be eradicated though right?” Me: “how’d you mean?” The reply: “By sterilising people”
@Imbecillis #heardwhilstdisabled Person: “You don’t look disabled…” Me: “I’m sorry I didn’t realise the neon sign was compulsory these days.”
@RedRubyGem #heardwhilstdisabled My housebound daughter was told if she didn’t attend interview at job centre her benefits would be stopped
@lauraevans311 Learning about DMD [muscular dystrophy] – fellow med student: “If they’re only going to live that long, what’s the point in educating them?”#heardwhiledisabled
@major___tom ‘I don’t want to vaccinate my kids in case they end up autistic like you’ #heardwhiledisabled
@TwinsMa #Heardwhiledisabled “If you’d stop coddling him, he’d quit being so clingy.”– says a former pediatrician to me about my autistic son
@claireOT told I’m “a bloody disabled” by a taxi driver when refusing to pay an extra £2 to carry my scooter #heardwhiledisabled
@thebeardlessone “You won’t make any friends if you keep making noises” #heardwhiledisabled (Actually, he’s the only person to diss my tourettes to my face)
@latentexistence #HeardWhileDisabled While visiting psychiatrist for suicidal thoughts, in a wheelchair: “You just need to exercise more.”
@usherchic2 #heardwhiledisabled so do you just tell your guide dog the plan for the day in the morning & he sorts it all out? Me:……
@Geeketteuk “Hitler was wrong about the Jews but right about people like you” (thanks for not being anti-semitic !) #heardwhilstdisabled
@Fire_Rosa #heardwhilstdisabled At the Dentist with Husband and Carer, receptionist” What home do you come from?* my own?
@lizmcternan #heardwhilstdisabled at a buffet, me in wheelchair, helping blind friend choose: ‘You people take up so much room’
@PottsMcG #heardwhilstdisabled “Don’t stare at her, she’s not all there” as said about my 9 year old sister in law, who has down’s syndrome. Vile
@AvoidedDrowning Frequently been told off for using a walking stick because I’m “too young to need it” too #heardwhilstdisabled
@hypatia “you people shouldn’t use rush hour transport, it’s for people going to work”. (me in suit with backpack) #heardwhilstdisabled
@MatthewJFowler #heardwhilstdisabled. Your not albino you haven’t got red eyes
@sparklygoth #heardwhilstdisabled ‘You don’t look deaf.’ & that looks like what exactly?
@badfanfic “They’ll diagnose anyone with autism these days” – my doctor #heardwhilstdisabled
@CarrieBeckwith #heardwhilstdisabled “we don’t have a ramp cos we don’t get disabled customers” – prob cos they can’t get into our shop!
@Wheelchair_Dave #HeardWhilstDisabled Someone asked wife “Did you know when you married him 15 years ago, he may have an accident & become disabled”
@WTBDavidG #heardwhilstdisabled Office fire warden 3 “You’re so disabled we need you to wait before using stairs, but not so disabled u need an evac plan”
@Becca_Boot #heardwhilstdisabled bus driver lowering ramp “i don’t have to do this, im going out of my way to help you, you better behave on here”
@VictoriaMWright Man: “she.. (gestures at me) makes me wanna (makes vomitting sound)” #heardwhilstdisabled
@WelshWallace #HeardWhilstDisabled police officer to me after being mugged – your not going to be much help as your blind & not able to give a description
@MelG1804 When refused access to restaurant with guide dog, relative said they shouldn’t have to take dogs if they don’t want to. #heardwhilstdisabled
@touretteshero #heardwhilstdisabled I know what would cure you – an exorcism #Tourettes
@Beakboo #heardwhilstdisabled My Irish mother, when she saw an obviously disabled person, in a loud whisper “would you look at that poor creature”
@theeternal “I thought autism was only in children.”#heardwhilstdisabled
@ScottTweed #HeardWhilstDisabled my personal favourite was “if you’re mum had seen a medium when pregnant then you wouldn’t of been born disabled”
@cvonruhland #heardwhilstdisabled Elderly landlady: ‘Why do disabled people need ‘rights’? They’re disabled, aren’t they.’ Gobsmacked
@urbanhippie21 #HeardWhilstDisabled hubby, in a swanky Shoreditch bar – is there a disabled loo? Them – no. There’s no demand for one. Him – I’m demanding
@supermattachine #heardwhilstdisabled “Hahahaha it’s so funny when you freak out when I come up behind you”
just so you know what is going on in my country right now:
- votes came in for independence 45% yes 55% no
- media very “”no”” centred and bias
- unionists are now attacking yes voters
- a seventeen year old girl has been stabbed
- they are burning our saltire giving nazi salutes
- our first minister resigns
please signal boost this
Lisa Simpson at Stuff-n-Hug
This really says a LOT
simpsons is so next level
I took my girls shopping for some summer clothes Saturday. T-shirts, jeans, shorts. They both love Marvel and superheroes and transformers and Hogwarts and stuff like that. Not so much pink and pretty stuff. They’ve both grown so much that this was the first time we were shopping in the grown up women’s section. Boring selections when it comes to t-shirts. Flowers and zebras and butterflies.
But what was making it near impossible was that all the t-shirts, the few they kinda-sorta liked, had either low/wide cut necklines or were extremely tailored for nipped in waists with little cap sleeves and short hemlines. Showing way too much skin for their ages as far as we all were concerned. So we headed over to the men’s section. A whole WALL full of properly cut tees with great designs on them!
They ran over and started hunting up things they liked. Two women were stocking shelves.
"You know these are MEN’S shirts."
"The girl’s section is over there."
"There’s not gonna be any Princesses over here, darlin’."
"These shirts are for the boys."
"This isn’t going to fit you right, honey."
I ignored the first time one of them said anything. Just told the girls what sizes they needed to look for and that they could each pick five shirts. But the women kept interrupting me. I tried to stay polite. “Yes, I know this is the men’s department.” But they kept making comments.
Finally I was getting mad. I told them we didn’t need any help. My girls were allowed to wear whatever they liked and they didn’t like the shirt designs in the women’s section and I didn’t like how low the necklines were.
Instead of just noticing that I was getting fed up with their “help”, they started arguing with me! One of them told my oldest, who is conventionally cute and skinny and starting to fill out (but still only 12), that “Oh that’s just because he’s your daddy. He doesn’t understand that a girl wants to show off for the boys!”
That was the last straw. I’m afraid I totally lost my temper. I told them (amongst a few other choice words) that they’d better walk away and come back to finish restocking the shelves once we’d left the area or I’d get the manager.
I try hard not to be rude to sales people and people in the service industry. That’s a difficult and thankless job. But for fuck’s sake! The first few comments were bad enough, but trying to undermine my moral authority with my kids? All in the name of gender and sexuality policing. They couldn’t get past the idea that my girls might prefer t-shirts that had “boy” designs on them and that didn’t hyper-sexualize them. The idea was abhorrent to them and they had to interfere and then KEEP interfering.
Once our sales “help” was gone, the girls found a bunch of shirts. Captain America, Minecraft, Doctor Who, Batman, Avengers. All the stuff they’re into. I mean, they also like MLP and Littlest Pet Shop and soft fluffy stuffed animals and Monster High dolls. We hit the toy section too for some of that stuff cos they brought their saved-up allowances with them.
At least we didn’t get any “help” in the shoe section. They’d’ve had a cow again cos while the youngest found a cute pair of pink and purple sneakers, I ‘let’ the oldest go to the men’s section and find a cool pair of dark blue and grey ones. (and omg their feet are huge! youngest wears a women’s size 9.5 and oldest wars a men’s 8. FFS, I wear a men’s 8.5. Their feet are almost as big as mine! How’d that happen?)
I hate this gender policing shit and won’t put up with it at all. I always feel for kids whose parents enforce this shit. I see it at stores when a girl or boy strays outside the lines, too often the parents are the one who pull them back into their place and it makes me sad.
Like, their friends who are boys, when they’re over at our house, they sit there and play with the girl toys as much as the boy toys. One of the boys loves playing LPS with my youngest, making up stories and stuff. The first time I walked out into the playroom and saw, he got so nervous and tried to say that he was just doing it to be nice to her. I told him that it was fine. He could play with whatever he wanted to and I wouldn’t tell anyone. Word got around to the other boys I guess cos now they all play whatever and don’t stop if I “catch” them.
I get shit from my mom about it too. I’m trying to make them into little boys. I shouldn’t have bought them trucks and toy swords when they were little. The oldest needs to learn to start wearing dresses now not just blue jeans. Why did I ‘let’ her get her hair cut short? I need to put the youngest on a diet and make her wear training bras. Why do I let them play with boys? etc etc etc.
I just find it so hard to believe that it’s the 21st century and people are still getting their knickers in a twist over this kind of thing.
^^^^ This man deserves a dad of the year award. ^^^^
You want to get kids out of foster care and into good, loving homes? I’ve got a simple solution to your problem.
Did you know LGBT couples are more likely to adopt older, children of color and disable children than straight couples? LGBT couples tend to adopt ‘undesired’ children more (basically kids no one else wants.)